You all cared for him, get over it…


 

QUESTION:

My Dad had a child with his first wife and two with his second wife (my mom).  We are writing his obituary.  My mom has horrible relations with his ex and strained relations with his first daughter.  We can’t seem to agree on a good way to include the first daughter in the obituary.  My mom wants it to be clear that she is not her daughter.  I don’t want the obituary to further alienate her from our family.  Any suggestions?

 

ANSWER:
All these people involved have one thing in common. They all cared for your father to one degree or another. That is what the focus should be not some hurt from years ago that one person has been unable to get over. I would simply say something along the lines of “…survived by ___ children and ____ grandchildren.” If your mother can’t get over that then she has some serious bitterness issues she needs to deal with.

Doc David
www.DavidSimonsen.net

One thought on “You all cared for him, get over it…

  1. I know that it’s hard, but you must include all children. It would definitely alienate her further. I hope that yall can reconcile because there is nothing like a sister’s love. I understand why your mother would not want her involved, but she is probably distraught and overwhelmed with emotions right now. You may have to step in and be objective.

    Tracie
    Life is a Damn Circus…and we are the circus acts
    http://socialworkingal.net

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